Has this ever happened to you? You are trying to determine the facts of a situation and you ask a bunch of questions that are not yielding the results you seek? You may have been fishing too hard.
What is fishing? Fishing during a coaching session is asking a series of direct questions with an implied reason for the question. A fishing question is looking for a very specific answer.
This scenario usually occurs when the coach thinks she or he has an inkling of what the problem might be and confirmation is sought. Fishing is also done when the coach is consciously or unconsciously reluctant to give up control of the discussion.
Assume a direct report has suddenly become grumpy at work. His attitude is usually very chipper and borders on office clown. The questions might do something like this:
- Are you upset because Sally got the promotion and you didn’t?
- Do you understand how to use the new program?
- Are you comfortable with your new role as team lead?
This is fishing. It is a series of closed-ended (and sometimes open-ended) questions that are “fishing” for why the person’s attitude has shifted into a negative zone.
The good news is that the coach noticed the change in behavior and took action to identify the issue.
The unfortunate news is that if the guy wasn’t upset about Sally’s promotion he might be now! He had forgotten about it or it had never occurred to him that he should be upset. However, with this clumsy reminder he is now questioning whether or not he should be disturbed.
Additionally, by naming the potential problems, the coach has already decided the possible issue and is directing the person to answer those questions. What happens if the issue is a personal one? What if there is a completely different obstacle and the person needs a chance to be candid about it?
The magic in any coaching session is, in part, crafting great open-ended questions.
After putting the direct report at ease with some unrelated chatting, state what you observed. What are the facts?
In the example above, the coach noticed the direct report was no longer walking in to the office with a smile on his face. He also slouched in his chair during the team meeting and did not participate in his usual manner.
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A skilled coach will state these observations. No interpretation needed at this point. Some managers may be tempted to label the behavior as grumpy, distant or disengaged. Step away from the assumptions!
You won’t know if it is work related or personal. An effective coach will suspend all interpretation until a discussion occurs.
Don’t judge, assume or label. Just state the raw facts. Articulate what was observed or the data that was gathered.
Then ask the question-one question- in a neutral or supportive tone.
- What has changed? or
- What can I do to help? or
- Something similar
Depending on the answers, ask additional questions to determine the root cause of the obstacle. Avoid fishing. It will likely annoy the other or result in an unproductive meeting.
Everyone wants a chance to tell his or her story. If you go fishing or stack (another article) during a coaching session, you may not give the other person a chance to tell the relevant story. You are guiding the person to the answers you want and away from the story he or she may need to tell.
By building your skills as a coach, you build trust with your team. A team who trusts you will work harder to please you.
A future article will explore the coaching technique I call Follow the Breadcrumbs.
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NOTE: in the example above did you catch the assumptions or labels of the behaviors? I called him “grumpy” and “chipper”. These are not facts. The facts are that he slouched in his chair, didn’t participate in his usual manner and didn’t greet the team with a smile. These are facts upon which everyone would agree. Not everyone would agree and label his behavior as grumpy. Grumpy is not a fact. Neither is chipper.
Caryn Colgan is an author, trainer and speaker